He hit me, but it wasn’t his fault.
In February, people across the world celebrate Valentine’s Day. It is one day of the year dedicated to making those you love, feel loved. People send bouquets of red roses, cliché teddy bears and chocolates; but this is all done in good spirits.
Romantic relationships are some of the most life altering relationship. Some of them, because they are beautiful and fulfilling and some because of the pain and destruction they cause.
Domestic violence is one of the biggest ills facing society. One in five women in South Africa have experienced physical violence by the time they turn 18. Before we go any further, let’s define abuse: to treat someone with cruelty or violence, especially repeatedly or regularly. Abuse can take the form of physical violence (beating) or verbal abuse (“you are worthless”) or sexual abuse (any unwanted sexual attention). Domestic violence speaks to a category of abuse that takes place in the family or in intimate relationships.
Abuse survivors are often ill-informed about what their remedies and how they can go about getting protection. The Domestic Violence Act 116 of 1998 provides for a protection order. This is similar to what the man on the street calls a restraining order. In essence, it is a court order that prohibits one person from making contact with another person. On the breach of such an order, that person faces possible arrest and will be criminally charged.
According to section 4 of the Act, a complainant (abuse survivor) must do the following:
It is important to remember, that by law (Domestic Violence Act), these proceedings must be done in private. Only parties to the dispute and their legal representatives are allowed in the court room. Therefore, you as complainant’s privacy is protected.
If you are facing any abuse, please remember that there are legal measures in place that can protect you. Further, I am here to help you through the process. So do not hesitate to contact me if you have any questions.
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